You know what women’s biggest complaint is on first dates with men?
It’s that they talk nonstop about their job.
Men have no idea how disinterested most women are in the careers we’re in. What matters to them is only that (a) you have a job, and (b) you can provide for yourself (you’re stable). Women don’t share the same enthusiasm guys do about work. In fact, most women don’t like to work, period, and are looking for a way out– their meal ticket. This covers about 85% of women, by the way. So it’s foolish for men to expect women to get interested in their professions. They don’t.
Women know that guys whose world is centered around their careers are self-centered and lack emotional depth. So if guys are giving a monologue on how great they are at their profession, women will wonder: “Will he have time for me?” Which is, by the way, one of women’s greatest sources of insecurity and concern (“Where will I fit in?”).
So with this knowledge, your future first dates will be memorable to the women you’re with. They will actually look forward to seeing you again, as you’re the first guy in a long time who actually talked with her instead of to her.
Stop talking about your job; make her bring it up first. And once she does, “get in and get out.” For example,
Her: “So, what kind of work do you do?”
You: “I’m a doctor”
Her: “Oh really? What kind?”
You: “I’m a pediatrician…”
Notice how in this example you’re answering her without elaboration. Elaborating about your job turns women off, as they simply don’t care about its details. If she wants to know more about your job, she’ll ask. And odds are, she won’t ask more than two or three questions about your work. Read Bonus Tip #1 below for some great suggestions on what to talk about instead…
Bonus tip #1: Stand out from the pack by asking her these questions: Favorite childhood memories (what’s the most amount of trouble you got into? What’s your biggest regret growing up?). Women like a guy who shows depth. Are you at the place in your life where you thought you’d be when you were a child? Stay away from the typical questions of “Where did you grow up, what do you do for a living, what do you do in your spare time, etc.”
Bonus tip #2: Women love to talk about the past because that’s what they tend to dwell on.
Bonus tip #3: When asking about her ex (husband or boyfriend), the longer the answer she gives you, the more hung up she still is on him. So if she elaborates, she still has unresolved feelings. Beware! As most women have a hard time letting go…