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Should I date a woman who is on antidepressants?

Should you date a woman who is on antidepressants?

Yes… if you have no problem being around a woman who cannot control her own moods and negative thinking. You’re willing to go against the odds and help make her happy again. And she’s very definitely on a path to recovery.

No… if you do have a problem being around a woman who lacks the ability to regulate her emotions, and has turned to pills for the answer to her negative thinking.

My advice is to never, ever, date a woman who is on antidepressants. Sure there are cases where she will quickly heal her thinking and likely victimhood status, but they are rare, gentlemen.

I just asked a girl that I’ve been going out with if she’s on antidepressants, and she admitted that she is (she’s on Buproprian). For me, it’s an instant deal-killer. She will find out that I am no longer interested in dating her tonight.

I have noticed over the years that women who are on antidepressant medications are negative thinkers in general. Antidepressant medications like Zoloft, Lexapro, and Prozac are band-aids to the larger problem of dysfunctional thinking. A woman on meds is a rescue project. Are you up to the task? Many men are. In fact, many men get high levels of esteem from helping women get back on track in their lives. We like to be needed by women. To fix their problems.

But be forewarned: it can be quite toxic to men to deeply involve themselves with depressed women. These women have the ability to suck your positive energy right out of you, and to drag you into their drama-filled world. A pill is a band-aid, as it covers the symptoms– not the cause– of their faulty thinking. But if you do decide to date a woman on antidepressants, ask her what it is specifically about her thinking that will allow her to cease taking a drug in the shortest amount of time. In other words, what’s her specific plan for getting off the drug?

–Bonus tip: It’s sad that these women never were taught how to control their thoughts. In my experience, most depressed women I’ve encountered had “Daddy” issues (father estrangement or abandonment). A strong father has a huge influence in crafting emotionally balanced women.

–Bonus tip #2: Is her mother mentally balanced? If not, this is a huge red flag! Especially if the mother is close to her.

Women who lie about their age

Women who lie about their age are, above else…

Insecure.

It’s true, society and men specifically value a woman’s youthfulness. But with few exceptions, women who take care of themselves are desired by (adult) males of most ages.

It boils down to her confidence level. A confident woman will not hesitate in giving an honest answer to someone’s question about her age– period. Neither will she ask, “Well, how old do you think I am?” nor “You should know better than to ask a woman her age.” Furthermore, she doesn’t embrace an irrational point of view of her age that doesn’t matter to most men. The insecure woman is too vain to realize that although men do judge women by their personality and looks, she doesn’t understand that men can and do find women in their 40s and 50s attractive (assuming they’re up to date with fashion and aren’t overweight).

If a woman only lied about her age, you could perhaps give her a pass that one time. But the reality is that women who lie about something as discoverable and unalterable as their age frequently lie about other matters as well– big and small. So if you catch your new woman lying about her age, it should be a big red flag to you that she’s capable of lying about other matters.

It’s a shame, really, that women don’t know what we men know– that an attractive 45-year-old woman can be far more desirable than an attractive 25-year-old. The 25-year-old might have more youthful skin, but she also might have an attitude and a muffin top. Or she smokes a pack a day. Or lacks any flirting skills whatsoever, and kisses terribly. The list goes on and on.

A popular justification women use
One popular justification women use for lying is that– in online dating– they’re funneled to guys older than they are if they’re honest about their age. Their rational goes,

“I’m 45, and I want to date someone in their 30’s. But since guys in their 30’s are chasing women below 40, I have to put my age as 39 to get any interest.”

True, but that’s only if women sit back passively while on dating sites. When a woman who has a good profile picture reaches out and contacts a guy, she will rarely be instantly written off by men. Because when a guy sees a good pic in someone’s profile who’s contacting him, he’ll click on it to see more. And assuming her bio and photos are good, she stands a good chance of getting a response.

 

 

 

Dating professional, career women

There’s dating women, and then there’s dating professional, career women. Avoid the latter, most of the time. Especially if they’re nearing 40.

Here’s why.

Professional, career women usually delay well into their 30’s the notion of having a husband or permanent man around them. They set aside their desire to date, and instead concentrate on their careers full time. Sure, they’ll go out on the weekends, but it’s not to meet a man worth keeping. They go out to have fun with their girlfriends… not to meet eligible single men. Their satisfaction is tied to their work, and men just aren’t a priority.

I’ve seen it time and again. Meeting these women out, or seeing their Match.com profiles, they’ve never been married, no kids, and they’re professionals of some type: lawyers, entrepreneuers, bankers, MBAs, Ph.Ds, MDs, pilots, real estate agents, fitness pros, accountants, pharmaceutical saleswomen, police women, and business owners. Starting in their mid-30’s (20-somethings still could ditch their careers and settle with a man; at this point it’s too early to tell), these women start to realize that their child-bearing days are numbered, and everyone keeps asking them why they’re not married. So they go on the hunt for a husband.

This is the absolute worst time for an unsuspecting man to meet this type of woman. For she’s not into the man for him, she’s into him for what he can do for her life goals of children and (possibly) a husband. In other words, the man who ties up with her is being used as a tool with a dual purpose: give her children, and help her fill in the “married” check box. This using of men is epidemic, and sadly most men that end up in this spot never knew how badly they’ve been duped until years later.

Typically, these career women are not the nurturing type. Most women enter “caring” professions like education (teachers), medicine (nurses), child care (daycare providers), and service (customer service/sales). Which means a “professional” won’t make attentive mothers of your children, nor make efforts to be a good wife to you. They’re raised to believe men and women are both equal– so traditional male-female roles can be thrown out the window.

Professional, career women are really, in many regards, a man in a woman’s body. In their defense, they have been living in a man’s world for so long, it’s hard not to get a male brain. They drive expensive cars, flash their success (nice apartments or houses), brag about their work, and love to drink and party on the weekends.

More bluntly, these women are toxic to the men that eventually fall victim to them. These women will frequently dump their birth control (if they’re on anything at all) and try to get pregnant. Or at least being OK with getting pregnant with any man she happens to be having sex with. She thinks she would like a man or marriage partner, but if she only gets a child out of the deal at least she’s 50% of the way there. And some women are even honest to themselves that they do not want a man; they simply want a child. One woman I know that’s 39 and a lawyer went to a sperm bank and got herself pregnant through artificial insemination. The ultimate act of, “Man not required!”

Here are typical traits of the professional, career single woman:

-Very good at her job. Has advanced extraordinarily far in many cases
-Never has been married and no kids
-Type A personality
-Extremely independent and selfish
-Lacks femininity and nurturing
-Doesn’t enjoy a man taking the lead
-Dominates the conversation, and asks her date few questions
-Chooses passive boyfriends and husbands
-Doesn’t like sex that much (unless they’re trying to lure a guy or get pregnant)

Lovely list above, isn’t it? These women have been living in a man’s world for so long that they’ve taken on many masculine traits.

Summary
If you like a strong, dominant, Type A woman, then a career woman is what you should seek. Otherwise, it’s best to avoid them.

Bonus tip: The most obvious way these women reveal themselves? Without exception, they ask you little to nothing about your own career, children, hobbies, or life pursuits.

 

What really goes on in a woman’s restroom

When a woman goes to the restroom at a bar, restaurant, or nightclub, very rarely does the trip even involve using an actual toilet. Especially if she’s going with another woman, as women love going in pairs to the restroom.

So what’s going on in there? Just a quick application of lipstick? Hardly… let us count the ways:

A woman’s restroom is like a mini beauty salon. Most women will be re-applying not just lipstick but mascara, perfume, powder, and wiping off sweat and changing out their gum. At the extreme, women will use the restroom visit to change clothes, take off bras, and perfume their privates.

A woman’s restroom is a counseling room. Women will talk about guys– the guys they’re interested in, and the guys that are creeping them out. Relationship problems will be aired, and advice sought from fellow bathroom attendees.

A woman’s restroom is the perfect way to ditch men. This is an easy way out if the guy won’t get a clue and/or the woman is too “nice” to make sure that he gets a clue. If a woman is on a date or just met a guy that she likes has to go to the bathroom, she’ll give him some reassurance that she’s coming back such as “Don’t go anywhere, I’ll be right back.”

A women’s restroom is really “drama central.” Women bitch about boyfriends, have breakdowns, and let their catty side come out (they are good about hiding this from men). There’s a lot of negativity going on. Remember, when people drink, their true character comes out, and so do all the problems they’ve been trying to ignore.

A woman’s restroom is like Noah’s Ark. Women go in two-by-two. Women go in together for moral support. They want to talk about something, and usually it’s about the guys. No guys pair up before heading to a men’s restroom now, do they? This powerfully shows how a restroom visit for women is NOT about needing the relief of a toilet.

So when a woman says she needs to use the restroom, know that there’s an 80-100% chance it has nothing to do with an actual toilet. And you can verify this yourself quickly by noticing her reapplied lipstick when she returns…

Bonus tip: If a woman you’ve just met is gone for more than five minutes in the bathroom, you’ve been ditched. So change location so you don’t look like a loser waiting for her.

Bonus tip #2: You’ll hear more bitching going on in a woman’s bathroom than you would ever hear in a counseling session.

Bonus tip #3: On a date, the longer a woman is in the restroom, the more you should worry as this is rarely a good sign. If she’s really into you, she’s going to want to hurry back to you. She’ll fire off a quick text or phone call and be right back with you.

Masters level dating tip #3

Do you think nothing of a woman texting you past 11pm who you’ve just met (up to the fourth date)? Probably not. But you should. Here’s why.

There are two reasons she’s doing this:

To find out if you’re with another woman. Because if you don’t respond, she’ll assume you are.
She wants to make sure the last woman you think about before you go to sleep is her.

Both of these are signs of a completely needy woman who’s got psychotic tendencies. Beware!

Top 10 mistakes men make in their dating profiles

LearnWomen.com‘s roundtable of savvy women got together to address a common complaint of how bad men’s dating profiles are. Here are their main complaints.
You should NOT…

  1. -Put up pics of you with other women
  2. -Put up pics of you shirtless in front of a bathroom mirror. It screams, “Hi, I am a douchebag and I am looking for something physical”
  3. -Put up pics of your children. Women don’t like guys that try to use their kids as date bait
  4. -Put up pics of you with your car. Unless you really don’t have anything more going for you than your money
  5. -Put up misleading pics. Never post pictures that are not current. And be honest about your height, weight, and hair status. Love is blind, but first dates aren’t
  6. -Send a message with only the word “Hi” in it. It’s a completely unimaginative and lazy way to get the ball rolling
  7. -Be vague in your profile. Never say “If you want to know more, ask.” It shows that you’re too lazy to take the time to market yourself
  8. -Send out a mass email. Personalize emails based on what you read in her profile
  9. -Mistake no response back from the woman for anything other than she is simply not interested in you. She saw your email and chose not to respond, so take the hint
  10. -Ask for sexually explicit pictures, or send an email eluding to sex right off the bat. Women want connection before sex– especially when having just met you on a dating website

When a woman says, “I used to model”

How many times have you been out with a woman, or seeing their online profile, where she brags that she models, or more commonly, used to modelToo many to count. These women are not 9’s or 10’s in almost every case, they’re 6’s through 8’s. You’ve probably scratched your head, trying to imagine this woman who does not have the “model” look in any way on the pages of a catalog or magazine. Being inquisitive, I’ve always asked what magazines or websites they were featured in, and let them know I want to see an example first hand. Some hemmed and hawed, some mentioned big names or agencies, but not one woman ever produced anything showing positively that they once modeled. Not one.

These women are putting out deliberately false advertising to make themselves look much better than they are. So why do women embellish themselves like this? It’s not like we men go around throwing around the “I used to model” card. Here’s why:

  1. She not as hot as she would like to be, and wants a guy to think they used to be hot. And what better way to do that than to say you were once a model?
  2. She knows a guy would love to brag to his friends that he’s dating a former model.
  3. It’s a huge ego boost for her to be able to wear the “modeling part-time” or “ex-model” crown around men– and almost impossible to prove she’s lying or greatly exaggerating.

If you want to have fun with this, next time you’re given the modeling line, express amazement and ask to see the actual magazine, TV commercial, or catalog she was in. 9.5 times out of 10, she’ll fail to come up with any proof other than a few stand-alone 4 by 6 inch prints. You’ve just called her bluff… way to go not taking her man-bait!

Sexting 101 for men

Women complain that most men are clueless about effectively sexting them. Seduction-by-text doesn’t just happen at night while sitting at home bored. True seduction starts slowly during the day and then builds… and then combusts at night.

Here are some useful female-approved texts to use:

“I want to feel your body pressed up against mine”
The words “fondle, tantalize, seduce, touch, feel, graze, grab, hold…”
“I want you”
“I want to feel your kiss”
“I love the way you…”
“I’d give anything to have you doing…. to me right now”
“Thinking of you, (insert your cute name for her)”
“I want to be inside of you” (only if you’ve actually been with her before)
Middle of day out of nowhere, “Thinking about you, I would give anything to have you right now.”

The biggest sexting mistake guys make is being too crass. Be sexual guys, but not offensive. No talking about the raw plumbing that makes sex work.

Bonus tip: Go read a romance novel, and you’ll discover that they turn women on *immensely* without using crass words. They all use words of seduction (see list above).

Remember, too, that all women will question whether this a text meant specifically for her, or one sent en mass to every girl in your address book. Especially if it’s early in dating. So be specific, with pet names, inside references, or something you two do to each other to let her know this is headed only to her phone.

Women want to feel needed and wanted; it’s what they thrive off of. They will love your sappy texts if you put some thought into it, eliminating any and all crass words. Think indirect, not direct, and paint a creative picture for her. I can promise you she will be bragging about you to her friends at work.

DON’Ts

And please, don’t use the words c*nt or pu**y. Ever. Women cringe at these two. Nor send a picture of your manhood, unless you want her laughing at it and forwarding it to her friends.