In short, the answer to this question is, “No.”
There are many reasons that you should not tolerate your significant other trashing your name in front of others. Here are just a few of the main considerations to make before dating a woman who does.
It can decrease your self esteem
Let’s say that, day in and day out, you’re working hard to make sure that your woman is happy. You’ve decided to take her out to nice dinner with a group of friends or colleagues this weekend. As soon as you arrive at the restaurant, she critiques what you choose to order. When you get into the conversation, she interrupts to criticize your grammar. Later that night, she brings up the fact that you never clean up after yourself at the house and can’t put a dish in the dishwasher to save your life. At this point, you’re probably feeling pretty embarrassed that your dirty laundry, so to speak, is being aired in the middle of dinner, especially if this is in front of your professional colleagues. Why would you want to put up with this type of behavior from the woman who is supposed to stand beside you?
Your relationship looks questionable from the outside
Let’s revisit the scene where you are out to dinner with a group of colleagues. How do you think that your girlfriend’s behavior reflects on your relationship with her? Your colleagues certainly don’t think that she respects you or the relationship, and they are probably wondering why you are putting up with that type of treatment.
It’s awkward for everyone involved
In keeping with the dinner scenario, by the middle of the meal, your colleagues are probably feeling pretty awkward. Think about this as if it were one of your coworkers being berated by his girlfriend in the middle of a business dinner. You likely have no idea what to say and find it awkward to try to rekindle or reroute the conversation after your buddy has taken such a beating. Don’t let your girlfriend be the one that makes the entire night an awkward experience.
If you’re currently dating a woman who behaves this way, it may be time to rethink the relationship. Think of it this way: if your woman wouldn’t put up with being treated the way that she’s treating you, the two of you shouldn’t be together. In the long run, a little disrespect breeds more disrespect and, before you know it, there is no mutual sense of regard for one another in the relationship. Is that really what you expected when you first met her? Of course it isn’t. It’s time to consider dumping her for a better woman.