As boys grow up into men, they will have experienced rejection countless times: on the football field in the form of choked plays and losses, in dating, during fights after school where they get their clocks cleaned, etc.
Boys generally aren’t coddled by their parents too much, and especially by their Dads. They fall down or get pushed down, and are told to get up and “suck it up.”
Most girls, on the other hand get treated differently– especially by their fathers. “Daddy’s girl” sounds sweet and innocent, however it can be detrimental to raising a woman who’s capable of facing the real world.
“Daddy’s girls” too often automatically become entitlement princesses, which turns them into the ultimate biotch. The problem is, they’ve never learned how to deal with rejection or consequences in a healthy way.
These women are the ones who, when hurt, will seek out revenge because they don’t know how to deal with their emotional pain in any other way. And when they don’t get what they want? – Watch out. The saying, “Hell hath no fury like a scorned woman” wasn’t created out of thin air.
Fast forward to marriages. Why do you think the conventional wisdom of a man just saying, “Yes, dear” to her is so prevalent? It’s because many women are unable to deal with conflict at all. So instead of living in a toxic atmosphere, men will simply just their mouths to avoid the discomfort of conflict with these women.
So guess what happens when these women get rejected and hurt (and they all do)? They are ripe for going dirty in their needs for revenge. These are the women who make a public scene, spread false rumors, mock your manhood, slash tires, or otherwise vandalize a guy’s car, or who hatch nasty plots to get back at the men who hurt them.
Think back to the movie, Fatal Attraction. What’s driving the psychotic behavior of actress Glenn Close? One word: rejection. In the extreme, these women will think, “If I can’t have you, nobody else can, either.”
Revenge-minded women seek your misery in order to soothe their pain. Just look at the lyrics in the popular song by Carrie Underwood, Before He Cheats:
“I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped-up 4 wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seat
I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights
Slashed a hole in all 4 tires
And maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats”
What’s the source of this unlawful, unethical, and crazy behavior? Again, it’s rejection. Which leads to her need for such revenge. The only way for her to feel better is for the man that hurt her to feel worse.
Here’s the simple formula:
REJECTION > REVENGE
Warning flags that you’re dating a woman capable of doing you harm
You’re too afraid to stand up to her because of her outbursts; the thought of getting rid of her or divorcing her sends chills up your spine; she flies off the handle when she doesn’t get her way.
There’s no fixing them, no reasoning with them, or repairing them via marriage or counseling 99% of the time. Some do one day realize their crazy ways, but it’s extremely rare. There are too many women out there that aren’t this way to waste your time dealing with those that are. Cut your losses, and allow her to move onto her next unsuspecting victim.
Bonus tip: There’s no good way to dump a crazy girl. So do it as you would in peeling off a band aid: discard quickly and do not look back. Any interaction past the breakup will never be good.
Bonus tip #2: Does she fly off the handle easily regarding her friends, family, or her exes? Well, you’re next (if you haven’t figured that out already).