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The Essential 5 C’s of Courting Women

What traits do women desire in a man? We have filtered down a topic that could fill a book into just five simple concepts. Here they are…

Confidence

This is the biggie. It’s by far the most important trait a man can have in the eyes of women. Women do not like uncertain, insecure, directionless, wimpy men.

Women can’t resist a confident man. He takes initiative, makes plans, and doesn’t seek approval from her. He’s never acting needy. He has a goal set for his career, knows what he wants out of life, and confidently moves forward

Here is classic example of the wrong way to ask a woman out: You call her up and ask “What kind of food do you like,” or “Where would you like to eat tonight?” Never get caught showing such spineless behavior. Step up to the plate and make some plans!

Assuming she’s agreed to meet up with you, the correct way to ask her out is always with a statement, such as “Let’s meet up at 7pm, I’ll pick you up.” As an added bonus, tell her what kind of attire she should wear, and mention that it’s a “surprise” or “you’ll see” to her questioning where the destination is… she’ll love the anticipation.

Calm and Controlled

Have you ever seen in movies an actor who can have seemingly any woman he likes? James Bond, for instance. Now, consider his demeanor. How calm and controlled is he?

Is he a nervous wreck? Does he try too hard? Does he lean in on women and talk their ears off? Laughing at everything they say? Or act excited and desperate to win the woman over?

Of course not.

What attracts women is a calm, non-hyper man, who is controlled with his actions.

Women have great radar for guys who are deep within, desperate or needy. Acting too excited and trying too hard to gain a woman’s attention will kill your chances with her.

Comedy

Women love to laugh. It doesn’t mean you have to have the humor of a comedian. It does, though, mean keeping your dates fun, cracking a few jokes, being sarcastic, and keeping the atmosphere light.

When women are asked what it is about a man they like, the most common answer they give is that he’s “funny,” or “he makes me laugh.”

A date is not a job interview. It’s a chance to find out about somebody, and gauge the chemistry between the two of you. By inserting some fun, you’re subconsciously telling a woman that you’re secure with yourself in the company of women and are enjoyable to be around.

Creativity

Women love it when men put some thought into a date. How many women love theater, for instance? Most do. Yet most guys don’t venture out on a limb and try something unique to entertain himself and his date.

A great way to get out of a rut of taking girls to the same places is to view the weekly entertainment inserts in your local newspaper that list the happenings around town. Read through that and get some ideas. Pick an activity or spot at random if you have to.

Get creative with where you take women, and you will leave her surprised with a smile. You’ll separate yourself from your competition.

Creativity is also important in the bedroom. Do you have just 3 positions in your repertoire and “steps” that she knows by heart? Change things up.

Buy a book showing 100 different positions or ideas, and try 3 new ones out on her each time. If you put forth the effort to also be considerate and caring (hey, another C) of her sexual fulfillment– and not just yours– you’ll be a partner she can’t stop thinking about.

So start thinking about this Creativity thing in everything you do and plan with women, and you’ll be one adventurous guy she can’t get enough of.

Challenge

Don’t be so easy to read and predictable.

Women will never admit it, or even know it consciously, but they like a man who’s a bit mysterious; not a man who calls them twice a day and whose intentions are fully obvious (full steam ahead!). This bores them.

Women talk about how predictable most guys are. They always answer on the first ring, or they call right back as soon as they hear their voicemail, for instance. They are always available when comparing schedules for an upcoming date, always agree with the woman’s opinion, are always available on the weekend for her, and always yield to their every suggestion.

Quite simply, these guys will not say “no”— and in the process show no challenge to the woman whatsoever.

Become scarce at times, and stop acting like you’re on a schedule with her. After all, a man who has many plates spinning will be this way naturally.

If you’re not this fortunate yet, don’t fret… simply start acting like it. Eventually, once you’ve followed the advice on LearnWomen.com, you will behave this naturally, and will never look at dating– or yourself–the same way again

What women mean when they say “He was bad in bed”

Here are some tips for you to avoid the dreaded title of “Bad in Bed.” One of the biggest complaints voiced by women are guys who are SELFISH in bed. Here are the top traits of a selfish guy:
No foreplay. Women need this time to warm up. If you bypass this vital stage, it immediately tells her that you’re inconsiderate of her needs. In her head, it’s “Oh great, here we go again, another one…”
Bad kissing. The most common complaint about a guy’s bad kissing is her needing a dental vac when making out– a sloppy, saliva-everywhere kiss. In her head, he’s careless right now, which means he more than likely will suck in the sack as well later.
Rabbit sex. Speed control: whatever position you’re in, staying with it for a long time. Women are not rabbits, so they do not enjoy being humped like one! It is OK to speed things up during sex but include some variation for her.
Quick shooter. A quickie is great fun for women once in a while but her ability to get off is close to zero. For a woman to get off it requires some effort, also known as “time.” So a guy who comes in about 5 minutes or less, is done before the woman even begins to get warmed up and really excited. In order for a woman to reach the same peak that you’re at after just 5 minutes of sex, it will take her 10-15 minutes. Fortunately, women will usually give an indication that it’s OK for you to let it rip.
Bad positioning. Staying in the same position for too long, or– God forbid– the entire time you have sex. Just because a position feels good to a man doesn’t mean it feels as good to a woman.
Never asking for feedback. Women love a man who asks if there’s a position she prefers, if there’s something he can do with his tongue to make her feel even better, etc. Unlike us giving a woman feedback when she’s giving us a bad BJ, women rarely will give any constructive feedback because they do not want to hurt the male ego.
Talking too much. Would you want to be with a woman who talks nonstop? Talking a lot reeks of your “trying too hard.” If you’re using your mouth to talk, her body’s being neglected. Use your mouth instead to kiss or nibble on her. This is one of the few times that a woman does not want to have a conversation with you. Relish this moment!
Fortunately for us guys, women don’t bitch to their friends about your performance in bed unless you really are bad. Because if she likes you, finding flaws sexually is not on her radar. Don’t do the above 7 things, and you’re sure to be raved about by her to all of her friends.
BONUS TIPS:
Don’t forget her boobs– most women’s nipples are extremely sensitive. Massage these while having sex, and you’ll be a stand-out. Tip: wet your middle finger and your thumb, and lightly caress her nipples while having oral, normal, or finger sex. As one woman told me, “Guys do not do that– ever!” And another said, “Once he’s inserted, all of the other parts of our body are forgotten.”
One of the reasons women fake their orgasms so much is because men aren’t pleasing them sexually. 95% of the guys whom women fake on, violate rules 1-7 above. Women are competitive, so if you want to be really rocked by her, challenge her with a statement like, “OK, hotshot, show me what you’ve got.” She’ll now feel the urge to one-up your previous sexual partners. Every woman has a secret “bag of tricks” sexually, but is usually too timid to bring them out. This statement gives her the green light to let loose, to tap into her “nasty” side. Warning: If she doesn’t deliver now, she never will– this will be as good as it gets.

Top 10 myths about women and your penis

 

1. Women often reject men sexually. She won’t, unless you have an offensive odor, are completely ungroomed, or are bad in bed (see the article “What women mean when they say “He was bad in bed.
2. Women enjoy giving blowjobs. Sadly most women don’t enjoy giving BJs. And don’t let women tell you otherwise. They view it as a perk to a guy they happen to like. Generally speaking, if they give you one, you’d be ready to give something back (your wallet, a commitment to her, sex afterwards, etc).
3. Women like talking about your manhood. Fact: it simply doesn’t interest women that much. Women just aren’t penis-centric. They spend little to no time being fascinated by or pursuing this male body part on its own. Just like you don’t talk much to you buddies about a woman’s va-jay-jay.
4. The bigger you are, the better you are in bed. Wrong, there’s absolutely no correlation. Just like a girl’s boobs or va-jay-jay’s tightness has nothing to do with how good she is in bed.
5. Size doesn’t matter. Most women prefer larger penises over smaller, but what what you do with it– how good you are in bed– trumps size.
6. Stamina matters. It doesn’t matter how long you stay hard if you don’t know what you’re doing.
7. “Yard”-maintenance isn’t that important. Women don’t want to floss while they’re giving you head, nor gag due to your crotch rot. Women complain about this more than any other factor of the male anatomy.
8. If I go soft on her, she’ll think something’s seriously wrong with me. Never! Funny thing is, she will personalize it as her problem. It won’t be because you underperformed, it’s because she underperformed and didn’t excite you enough.
9. Women have seen more penises than you have. Wrong. Truth is, if you include TV and porn penises, you’ve seen thousands to her dozens or hundreds. Scary, huh?
10. Men are the only ones who don’t like condoms. Women hate them just as much as we do; there’s nothing fun about having latex-sex. On a side note, women are as irresponsible as men are when it comes to consistently using them with new partners.
[This article was compiled by speaking to a dozen “experienced” women ranging from 25 to 38]

What it means when a woman invites you to her place

Is there really a big difference between a woman inviting you back to your place, and you successfully inviting her back to yours? Yes, and it’s a whopper. If you invite a woman back to your place after a night out, and she agrees, it’s a great start. She wouldn’t agree unless she has a decent level of trust and interest in you. However, it’s far from a guarantee that you two will have sex.

A few key factors that will make or break your ability to seal the deal:
  1. how clean your place is
  2. evidence of former conquests easily seen– hair pins, bracelets, chick perfume aroma on your sofa, etc.
  3. read her signals. Don’t go straight in for the kill.
  4. set the mood: wine, dimmed lights, and back off a little bit at times (tells her “he must respect me”)

So how does it differ when a woman invites you back to HER place?

For her to invite you back, you’ve already passed her initial tests. When going to your place, on the other hand, she’s still testing the waters with you. At her place, she’s ready to dive in. It’s her home turf, and she’ll feel a lot more comfortable at her home than at yours.

If she has sex on the mind, she’ll want to be at her place where she has all of her supporting cast– perfume, deodorant, negligees, the last-minute cleanup shave, etc.

Big point here: there’s a huge amount of trust in letting a guy know where she lives. Women are often justifiably worried about stalkers and creeps. So you’ve passed some big hurdles in her mind, my friend, if she invites you back.

If you want to see whether or not you’re pre-approved with her, simply give her the option as the night draws to a close at the bar or nightclub. Your place or hers? And see what she says. What a clever way to gain super fast insight into what she’s really thinking of you…

Post-breakup: Her friends’ loyalties

After dating a woman for a while, you’ll start meeting her friends. Some of these women will be very cool to you, and you’ll gain a level of respect for them. They’re very likable people, after all.

Years can pass by, and by that time you would think that if you and your woman ever break up, these quality women would see your point of view and try to stay out of the conflict. Right?

Wrong.

Never forget this: a woman’s friends have loyalty to only one party– and it’s not you. Her friends and not your friends. Think of them as wolves in sheep’s clothing. Whatever you tell your ex’s friends in “confidence” might as well be spoken directly to her. She will find out, no matter how neutral or even sympathetic her friends might be to your side of the story. Her friends will even throw her under the bus in an attempt to make you think that they’re on your side.

Women’s programming does not include chasing after the guy their friend just dumped. Unlike how we guys operate! It does happen, but rarely. Women band together around their friend who just had a break-up, and repel that verminous man who is now her “ex.”

Your ex’s friends are loyal to her, and only to her. Disregard our warning at your own peril!

The 80/20 conversation rule on a date

Women speak more than most men, and that definitely holds true on dates (and if you talk more than she does, what are you thinking?! That’s a future article). But when the balance of conversation becomes 80/20 or even greater, you’d better be very careful about picking this woman.

A woman who talks about herself and her life for 15, 30, or 45 minutes straight is a Huge– yes, capital H– warning sign that this woman is overly self-absorbed.

It’s important to remember that a conversation is a two-way street of information, some flowing out and some flowing in. It’s perfectly normal for the “talker” of the two to somewhat dominate the conversation. But when a long stretch of time ensues where the conversation doesn’t redirect, it should serve as a big warning sign. Remember this…

The person that does the talking learns nothing about the other person; the person that does the listening learns everything.

If your date is a heavy talker, and at the end of an hour you look back and she’s only asked you a handful of questions– and she spoke for 50 minutes while you did for only 10, what did she learn about you?

A date is essentially a job interview. You’re there to identify likes, interests, passions, and more about this person to see if there’ a connection. If she dominates the conversation, how much information did she discover about you? Not much. 

Some guys make the mistake of thinking that an 80/20 conversation means the woman isn’t interested. Not necessarily. Your equity in their eyes often rises the longer you let her go on about herself, because her favorite topic is herself (just as it is with anyone– let’s be honest). And if you give her this “Me podium” opportunity, she’s going to be in a great mood.

It’s the negative side of an 80/20 conversation that you should be aware of. She is very likely self-absorbed. As for her feelings towards you, she’s either already pre-approved you (which is why she feels no real need to ask you questions), or she has little curiousity about you. She still might want you around and want to date you, but it’s for bad reasons:  you give her attention, social proof, the “boyfriend” checkmark, etc).

Within 30 minutes of a date’s beginning, you’ll usually know whether this is an issue or not. It has nothing to do with interest or lack of interest on her part, but everything with her

 

 

 

 

Women who text while on a date

Women who send outgoing or look at incoming text messages while on a date send *you* a message about their manners.

Text messaging (or SMS) is popular today, especially with young, single women. It’s not uncommon for them to reach for their phone every 10 or 15 minutes to see who’s texting them or to fire a quick shot off themselves.

However, when on a date, a lady will either turn her phone on silent mode, or save the text messaging until she’s alone– in a bathroom, waiting on you while you’re in the bathroom, etc. If a woman picks up the phone while she’s on a date with you, and she’s NOT obligated in any way to be available for her job, then it’s telling you that she is inconsiderate and selfish.

There are certainly exceptions to this rule. If she’s a mother and needs to check to see if her son is trying to reach her; if she’s awaiting a specific important message; if she’s on call and needs to look at every incoming text. These are all certainly valid reasons for her to be checking her phone.

Use your gut on her text messaging manners. Most women are aware of good manners, but throw out the rulebook when it comes to texting etiquette. If it’s becoming a distraction on your date, you certainly have the option of letting her know that texting while on a date is rude, or to say nothing and move on to the next girl.


How dirty is the inside of her… car?

One shortcut to find out how organized and clean a woman you meet is, is to take a quick look into her car.

The inside of her car is usually an accurate reflection of her apartment’s condition– specifically her kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, and closets. A fairly clean interior free of Coke cans, Taco Bell wrappers, shoes, wadded papers, and other junk means she tends to take care of her surroundings.

Peering inside her car, here are some telltale signs of one messy, disorganized girl:

1. Fast food trash
2. Clothing of any kind
3. Shoes in the back seat (think of the smell that’s being transferred)
4. Anything gym-related
5. Beer cans or any other cans
6. Front passenger seat containing more than two handfuls of anything
7. Empty water bottles
8. Any makeup
9. College textbooks

There’s an even deeper extension off of this that you may not realize. If she’s disorganized in her personal space– her car and her apartment are the biggest clues for you– then she’s very likely to be disorganized in other areas of her life. Including professionally.

A woman with messy, disorganized surroundings usually has a lot of mess and disorganization in other areas of her life.

It’s not a hard and fast rule, and there are plenty of exceptions. But you should be open to the possibility of other things being in disarray in her life.

At the very least, it’s fun to do this “car check,” and give her a hard time if she doesn’t pass it. Ask her, “is it true what they say about women with messy cars?” Have fun!