There’s dating women, and then there’s dating professional, career women. Avoid the latter, most of the time. Especially if they’re nearing 40.
Professional, career women usually delay well into their 30’s the notion of having a husband or permanent man around them. They set aside their desire to date, and instead concentrate on their careers full time. Sure, they’ll go out on the weekends, but it’s not to meet a man worth keeping. They go out to have fun with their girlfriends… not to meet eligible single men. Their satisfaction is tied to their work, and men just aren’t a priority.
I’ve seen it time and again. Meeting these women out, or seeing their Match.com profiles, they’ve never been married, no kids, and they’re professionals of some type: lawyers, entrepreneuers, bankers, MBAs, Ph.Ds, MDs, pilots, real estate agents, fitness pros, accountants, pharmaceutical saleswomen, police women, and business owners. Starting in their mid-30’s (20-somethings still could ditch their careers and settle with a man; at this point it’s too early to tell), these women start to realize that their child-bearing days are numbered, and everyone keeps asking them why they’re not married. So they go on the hunt for a husband.
This is the absolute worst time for an unsuspecting man to meet this type of woman. For she’s not into the man for him, she’s into him for what he can do for her life goals of children and (possibly) a husband. In other words, the man who ties up with her is being used as a tool with a dual purpose: give her children, and help her fill in the “married” check box. This using of men is epidemic, and sadly most men that end up in this spot never knew how badly they’ve been duped until years later.
Typically, these career women are not the nurturing type. Most women enter “caring” professions like education (teachers), medicine (nurses), child care (daycare providers), and service (customer service/sales). Which means a “professional” won’t make attentive mothers of your children, nor make efforts to be a good wife to you. They’re raised to believe men and women are both equal– so traditional male-female roles can be thrown out the window.
Professional, career women are really, in many regards, a man in a woman’s body. In their defense, they have been living in a man’s world for so long, it’s hard not to get a male brain. They drive expensive cars, flash their success (nice apartments or houses), brag about their work, and love to drink and party on the weekends.
More bluntly, these women are toxic to the men that eventually fall victim to them. These women will frequently dump their birth control (if they’re on anything at all) and try to get pregnant. Or at least being OK with getting pregnant with any man she happens to be having sex with. She thinks she would like a man or marriage partner, but if she only gets a child out of the deal at least she’s 50% of the way there. And some women are even honest to themselves that they do not want a man; they simply want a child. One woman I know that’s 39 and a lawyer went to a sperm bank and got herself pregnant through artificial insemination. The ultimate act of, “Man not required!”
Here are typical traits of the professional, career single woman:
-Very good at her job. Has advanced extraordinarily far in many cases
-Never has been married and no kids
-Type A personality
-Extremely independent and selfish
-Lacks femininity and nurturing
-Doesn’t enjoy a man taking the lead
-Dominates the conversation, and asks her date few questions
-Chooses passive boyfriends and husbands
-Doesn’t like sex that much (unless they’re trying to lure a guy or get pregnant)
Lovely list above, isn’t it? These women have been living in a man’s world for so long that they’ve taken on many masculine traits.
If you like a strong, dominant, Type A woman, then a career woman is what you should seek. Otherwise, it’s best to avoid them.
Bonus tip: The most obvious way these women reveal themselves? Without exception, they ask you little to nothing about your own career, children, hobbies, or life pursuits.