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Givers vs. Takers

There are broadly two types of women, one who is a Giver and the other who is a Taker when it regards to men.

Let us start out with the type you want to avoid: The Takers. Takers are the women who use men. They use them primarily for the resources men willingly hand over. They don’t require attraction to these men they’re after. Sure, they would love a great looking guy, but they realize that these kind of men are more likely to leave them one day. So when you see a hot woman with an average or ugly man, you’re seeing a Taker at work.

Takers will go after many things that men have, including:

  • Sperm (to give them offspring)
  • Shelter (they get tired of living with a roommate in a one bedroom apartment)
  • Luxuries (travel, exotic cars and homes, etc)
  • Lifestyle (high end functions, nightclubs, etc)
  • Basic goods (drinks at a bar, a ride home, a car

Takers are superficial and only one layer deep. They’re very calculating and cunning, and prey on men’s weaknesses.

The healthiest kind of woman is a Giver who wants a Giver in her man.

Women with eating disorders

Red flag ahead!

Women with eating disorders are not only damaging themselves, but damaging to any men who choose get into a relationship with them.

Women who are trying to starve themselves, or nearly starve themselves, are also in the majority of cases depressed or exhibit obsessive-compulsive disorders.

There are a few types of eating disorders, and here they are:

  • anorexia nervosa
  • bulimia nervosa
  • binge eating disorder

A woman who starves herself, with only a minimal eating, has anorexia nervosa. With it her weight drops rapidly. It’s an extremely harmful act on her own body, a form of sabotage.

A man, meanwhile, who has an eating disorder has just one: He eats too much— specifically, carbs and sugar.

In short, women with eating disorders like anorexia nervosa are mentally ill on some level. From bulimia.com: Anorexia nervosa is classified as a mental illness.”

Q: Did you know? The most common eating disorder is Binge Eating Disorder.

Q: Did you know? 95% of eating disorders in females occur between the ages of 12 and 25.5.

Should a woman criticize her man in public?

In short, the answer to this question is, “No.”

There are many reasons that you should not tolerate your significant other trashing your name in front of others. Here are just a few of the main considerations to make before dating a woman who does.

It can decrease your self esteem
Let’s say that, day in and day out, you’re working hard to make sure that your woman is happy. You’ve decided to take her out to nice dinner with a group of friends or colleagues this weekend. As soon as you arrive at the restaurant, she critiques what you choose to order. When you get into the conversation, she interrupts to criticize your grammar. Later that night, she brings up the fact that you never clean up after yourself at the house and can’t put a dish in the dishwasher to save your life. At this point, you’re probably feeling pretty embarrassed that your dirty laundry, so to speak, is being aired in the middle of dinner, especially if this is in front of your professional colleagues. Why would you want to put up with this type of behavior from the woman who is supposed to stand beside you?

Your relationship looks questionable from the outside
Let’s revisit the scene where you are out to dinner with a group of colleagues. How do you think that your girlfriend’s behavior reflects on your relationship with her? Your colleagues certainly don’t think that she respects you or the relationship, and they are probably wondering why you are putting up with that type of treatment.

It’s awkward for everyone involved
In keeping with the dinner scenario, by the middle of the meal, your colleagues are probably feeling pretty awkward. Think about this as if it were one of your coworkers being berated by his girlfriend in the middle of a business dinner. You likely have no idea what to say and find it awkward to try to rekindle or reroute the conversation after your buddy has taken such a beating. Don’t let your girlfriend be the one that makes the entire night an awkward experience.

If you’re currently dating a woman who behaves this way, it may be time to rethink the relationship. Think of it this way: if your woman wouldn’t put up with being treated the way that she’s treating you, the two of you shouldn’t be together. In the long run, a little disrespect breeds more disrespect and, before you know it, there is no mutual sense of regard for one another in the relationship. Is that really what you expected when you first met her? Of course it isn’t. It’s time to consider dumping her for a better woman. 

Emotional infidelity in women

Society is well aware of men’s sexual infidelity problem. But what’s seldom talked about is the female ability to emotionally cheat.

Emotional infidelity is far worse than sexual fidelity in most instances. A man’s ability to have sex without an emotional connection is rarely replicated in women. The equivalent today to a man’s sexual boundary crossing is a woman’s crossing emotional boundaries. A quick example: a married woman who shares intimate details of her life with another man. This act is done frequently today. This includes:

1. Complaining to any other man about her man.

2. Divulging secrets and intimate details of her man to any other human being– not just another man.

Women crave an emotional connection with her man. But when they take the facts and details from this heart-to-heart connection and share it inappropriately with others, they are being emotionally unfaithful and should not be trusted. A woman who lacks boundaries in this area lacks boundaries in most.

Emotional infidelity is worse than sexual infidelity for the simple reason that the heart is more important than our sex parts. And it doesn’t happen just to couples in a relationship or marriage– it frequently rears its ugly head during dating. A woman will take details from private discussions with her man and share them with her mom, friends, or male friends. This kind of woman cannot be trusted, and is deeply toxic to men she has a relationship with.

In summary, women are far more likely to cheat on their men by emotional means than physical; but this type of cheating is far more damaging to their  relationship than sexual infidelity…

Bonus tip: Men are victims of this infidelity in equal numbers as women who are victims of men’s sexual infidelity.

Should I date a woman who is on antidepressants?

Should you date a woman who is on antidepressants?

Yes… if you have no problem being around a woman who cannot control her own moods and negative thinking. You’re willing to go against the odds and help make her happy again. And she’s very definitely on a path to recovery.

No… if you do have a problem being around a woman who lacks the ability to regulate her emotions, and has turned to pills for the answer to her negative thinking.

My advice is to never, ever, date a woman who is on antidepressants. Sure there are cases where she will quickly heal her thinking and likely victimhood status, but they are rare, gentlemen.

I just asked a girl that I’ve been going out with if she’s on antidepressants, and she admitted that she is (she’s on Buproprian). For me, it’s an instant deal-killer. She will find out that I am no longer interested in dating her tonight.

I have noticed over the years that women who are on antidepressant medications are negative thinkers in general. Antidepressant medications like Zoloft, Lexapro, and Prozac are band-aids to the larger problem of dysfunctional thinking. A woman on meds is a rescue project. Are you up to the task? Many men are. In fact, many men get high levels of esteem from helping women get back on track in their lives. We like to be needed by women. To fix their problems.

But be forewarned: it can be quite toxic to men to deeply involve themselves with depressed women. These women have the ability to suck your positive energy right out of you, and to drag you into their drama-filled world. A pill is a band-aid, as it covers the symptoms– not the cause– of their faulty thinking. But if you do decide to date a woman on antidepressants, ask her what it is specifically about her thinking that will allow her to cease taking a drug in the shortest amount of time. In other words, what’s her specific plan for getting off the drug?

–Bonus tip: It’s sad that these women never were taught how to control their thoughts. In my experience, most depressed women I’ve encountered had “Daddy” issues (father estrangement or abandonment). A strong father has a huge influence in crafting emotionally balanced women.

–Bonus tip #2: Is her mother mentally balanced? If not, this is a huge red flag! Especially if the mother is close to her.

That’s not your baby!

In one unobtrusive study at American hospitals, 10% of the babies born did not match the DNA of the father at bedside. So make sure you get the baby DNA tested if there’s any doubt at all that your baby is indeed… your baby.

source: Dr. Wendy Walsh